Saturday, March 13, 2010

Letters of Intent

Foursons


This idea was brought to you by Julie it's Letters of Intent!

Dear Speech Therapist:
I don't care how many times you tell me it's ok.  I will never think it's ok to hold my son in a tight bear hug until he says "All done."  He has Apraxia.  He can't say "all done!"  Holding him in a bear hug while he's screaming and crying and flipping out isn't going to help him.  I'm sure it doesn't make him want to come back to you either.  Can you please just help him learn to talk without tramatizing him (and me)?

Thanks!

Signed
Lady who would love her son to be able to tell you "All Done"

Dear Hubby,
Get off your butt and spend some time with the boys.  They want to play basketball with YOU not me!  Here it is 11am on Saturday morning and everyone is awake but you.  What makes you think that you can sleep the day away while I deal with the boys?  Instead of sleeping you could be out doing something with the boys and spending time with them.  When they become dads (hopefully not for a LONG LONG time) I want them to actually want to spend time with their kids and do things as a family.  With you as a role model I don't think that's going to happen.  Family time isn't going to kill you.  I promise.

Signed
Your loving wife


Dear IEP team:

My son's first IEP meeting is coming up and I'm scared to death.  All I've heard is horror stories about IEP meetings.  Can you please be easy on me?  I'm not really sure what to expect and not really sure what I can and can not demand.  I'd just like my son to get the services he desperately needs with his diagnosis's.  I'm sure we can all get along and do what is best for my son.

Signed
A mom who only wants what's best for her son.

Dearest Oldest Son:

Can you PLEASE stop being so mouthy? I really don't appreciate it.  There is no reason to be so nasty and mean towards me.  I didn't do anything but ask you to stop punching your brother.  Next time you decide to backtalk me you may find a backhand across your mouth.  I'm sick of it and not sure how much more of it I'm going to allow before showing you just how serious I am.

I love you and realize you're 8 years old and think the world revolves around you, but soon you're going to revolve around the world if you keep it up.

Love
Your sick of the mouth mother.

3 comments:

Foursons said...

I have had 2 sons in Speech Therapy and no one has ever layed a hand on either one of them. I don't understand the method of a bear hug at all and would have some serious things to say to her and/or her superior if that happen to my kids.

I have had that some conversation with my husband. I know how frustrating it is. I am sorry you are having to go through it.

At your first IEP meeting just go in ready to listen. Ask questions if you don't understand and keep asking if you don't understand their answers. Take notes so you can remember everything later. It won't be until later after he has been in their services for a while that you will be able to start questioning things. If their accomodations aren't working or you think your son needs more added to his IEP, then you will ask for them. That is when the battles will come into play too. But for now, just go in and hear what they have to say. Don't be nervous- they are there to help your son.

I understand the "mouth" too. I have found that a few consistent swift punishments and they start to realize that their behavior is unacceptable.

Thanks for linking up and good luck with everything! If you have any questions about the meeting with the school feel free to ask me. I am not an expert, but I've sat in enough of the meetings to kind of know what is going on.

Lacie @ Creative Attempts said...

what a great way to get some of your feelings and frustration out I should do this it was so raw and honest I bet it was totally empowering!

WolfeFamily said...

what an awesome idea!!! I totally have to do this. Is there a day you have to do it? like fridays or something?

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