So tomorrow is the day! We will be leaving bright and early tomorrow and heading to Great Wolf Lodge in Williamsburg, VA! The boys just found out about the trip Saturday thanks to my little sister LOL. They were sitting around the table with her and she was talking about the trip and Austin (my 6 year old) looked at her and said "can we come?" and she said "duh! You ARE going!"
Ah well, it was so funny that I couldn't help but laugh. They would have found out eventually and I think because they really don't know what Great Wolf is, and they've never been there, they don't really know what to expect so I haven't been bugged constantly with "are we leaving today?" "can we go now?" etc etc.
We'll be spending 2 nights and 3 days there. Then we'll be leaving there and heading to my in laws house to spend Thursday night through Sunday night at their house. We always spend the 4th of July with them (well for the last few years anyway) because they have a huge parade in their town, plus a carnival and then fireworks that night. After fireworks hubby and I will be leaving to come back home. The boys will be staying with them! Avery (the 3 year old) will stay for 1 week. I don't want him to miss a full summer of speech therapy and he'll have already missed 2 weeks between great wolf and his week with them. The two older boys will be staying with the in laws for the rest of their summer break! They'll be back home sometime the middle of August.
Oh glorious peace and quiet!!
Once hubby and I get back here, then Tuesday (the 6th) we have the "big" ultrasound! Ack! I'm excited/nervous about it. It is what it is though I guess.
While I'm gone I'd love a couple guest bloggers! If you're interested leave a comment here or email me (mommyshiding (at) yahoo (dot) com) I will be bringing the laptop and hopefully responding to comments/emails as I can, but will be spending the week relaxing with my family and having some fun so please be patient!
I can't wait! So excited! Everything is packed and ready to go in the car first thing in the morning! Have a great holiday everyone!
Monday, June 28, 2010
Monday Minute!
Linking up again this week for Monday Minute!
Has anyone you've known personally lived to at least 100?
No I don't believe so. My grandmother died close to 100, but didn't make it there.
What material possession do you value the most?
Probably my laptop! I mean geez it's my link to the WORLD people!! LOL
What do you think happens to us after we die?
Honestly I don't know. I hope that we don't die and that's it. I would hope that there is a heaven where we meet back up with our family members that have already passed. Guess we'll all find out one day.
Most embarrassing item in your house?
Oy the carpets! Good thing we're renting and it's not "ours" ya know?! Or I would have changed it a LONG time ago!
and finally...
If you could rename yourself, what would your name be?
I honestly would have just switched my first and middle names. I've always gone by my first name, so why have it as my middle name?!
Sunday, June 27, 2010
Getting to know me - 6/27/10
Linking up for Getting to know you - Mostly Girly Edition :)
The Questions:
1.If you had 5000.00 to spend on plastic surgery what would you have done?
Tummy tuck definitely! Get rid of this c-section pooch!
2. Do you watch Soap operas and if so what is your favorite and why?
I watch Young and The Restless and As The World Turns
My fav? Probably Young and The Restless as I've been watching it the longest.
3. Favorite clothing brand?
I definitely do NOT have a favorite brand.
4. An afternoon shopping spree at your favorite store or maid service for a year?
OMG with these kids? Maid service PLEASE!
5. would you ever vajazzle?
I got a "free" sample the other day and I'm trying work up the courage LOL.
6. Favorite Disney Princess?
Belle
7. Last movie that made you bawl your eyes out?
Dear John.
8. Have you ever broken any bones and if so what?
Nope never!
Friday, June 25, 2010
Letters of Intent and Happy Friday Follow!
Today is Friday!! Since it's friday I'm linking up with Foursons for Letters of Intent!
Dear 3 year old son,
Patting mommy's belly over and over saying "really big belly" is not very nice. Yes it was cute, and yes I smiled and didn't strangle you. But it doesn't make it any more "right". Got it?
Love your pregnant mom with the "really big belly"
Dear 6 year old son,
When you were rubbing my belly last night and saying "the baby is in here" it made my heart melt. Then when you claimed my belly was so big that you could feel the baby's head, I thought you were gonna join your 3 year old brother in being strangled. I am almost 18 weeks pregnant....I can guarentee that is not the baby's head you were feeling.
Love your pregnant mom who isn't THAT pregnant yet!
Dear Husband,
You've been alive for almost 30 years now. Are you trying to tell me no one has told you that you don't tell a woman "your belly is really getting big" yet? Even if you included "I know it's not your fault" I still wanted you to join your sons in being strangled.
Love your pregnant wife who's belly will get a LOT bigger and you know this!
I think I need some estrogen in my house to teach these guys what NOT to say to a girl!
If you're here from Friday Follow welcome! I can guarentee that you'll laugh, you'll cry, and you'll think I'm insane :) Pull up a chair and read my blog! I'm a 29 year old stay at home mom with 3 boys and pregnant with baby #4. We'll find out the sex on July 6th and I'm pretty sure if it's another boy I'll end up committed ;) LOL
Enjoy reading, and leave me a link so I can follow back!
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Summer Vacation
I'm linking up again this week with Shell for Pour Your Heart Out. Read my blog then go read others who are pouring their heart out too.
So the last day of school for my boys is today. Yes I know everyone else's kids have been out of school f.o.r.e.v.e.r, Yes I know they've had a very long school year. Add to the fact that we moved mid school year and they started a brand new school in a brand new state and I'm sure the year has felt even longer to them.
But see this winter we had the "blizzard of 2010" and they ended up out of school for almost 2 weeks!! Every other school district in the state requested a waiver of missed days so they wouldn't have to make them up. Not our school district though. Nope, they decided they would make up ALL but 1 day. So my kids have been in school almost 2 weeks longer than every other school district in the state. But that's beside the point, and I've gone off on a tangent :P
As I was saying, today is the last day of school. My boys get out of school at 12:55 today. I read all these other posts about how happy people are that the kids are on summer break and how much fun their going to have this summer. That is not me. As happy as I am the kids are out of school, I am not happy for me, I am happy for the kids! I remember being a kid and just getting so excited about summer break and being so happy that school was over for the year. So I am not ruining that for them. I'm thrilled that school is out for them. I'm so happy that they finished this very hard year on top of everything that has happened. Not only did they "finish" but they finished on TOP. Perfect grades, perfect behavior. Absolutely no trouble, and they have made a lot of new friends.
But I can not look forward to having the kids home all day. I can not look forward to the fighting, the yelling, the screaming, the tantrums. I love when the kids go off to school and the house is quiet for the day. I'm able to run my errands by myself and get everything done that I need done without fighting and without having to bribe someone to be go somewhere or be good while we're in the store.
Because of all of this when my mother in law asked last year if she could keep the two older boys for the summer break (she lives almost 4 hours away) I didn't hesistate for a second to say "Heck yeah!". The boys were gone last year from the end of June till the middle of August. I had Avery here, but he's a lot easier to deal with by himself!
This year when my mother in law asked yet again to keep them for the summer again I didn't hesistate to say "heck yeah!" But this time I asked my husband if we could do a family vacation before we send them off. So next week we are going to Great Wolf Lodge for a few days. After that we'll take the boys to the inlaws. I even asked my mother in law if she'd keep Avery this time too! But only for 2 weeks, and only if he'll stay. I won't force him, since he's still so young. And I don't want him to miss a full summer of speech therapy, so he won't stay all summer. But the two older boys will be there from July 1st until the middle of August again.
And you know what? They love it. It isn't like they want to stay home either. They love being up at their grandparents house. My inlaws live on quite a few acres of land. They have 4 wheelers and a river they take the boys to swim in. The boys have a blast. They always hit the carnival with the boys before they bring them home.
And I enjoy a nice summer without the screaming and fighting. But I miss them like crazy.
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
The Happiness Project
Linking up this week with Leigh again for the Happiness project. Go check out what makes others so happy too!
My oldest son Aidan choosing his youngest brother to play with over his friends at the family fun day at school last week :)
Monday, June 21, 2010
Happy Homemaker Monday!
The weather in my neck of the woods:
Hot, Hot and more hot. We've hit the pool almost everyday lately!
Things that make me happy:
my kids, retail therapy, the pool
Book I'm reading:
Not reading anything at this time.
What I'm enjoying on TV:
All my shows are on season break or whatever. Can I just say how much I HATE summer TV time?! Usually it's:
House
Mentalist
Dr. Phil
CSI
and whatever reality show is on at the time (ie: American Idol, Amazing Race, blah blah)
On the menu for dinner:
Absolutely no clue yet! LOL
On my To Do List:
Make beds
laundry
vacumme
dust
mop
New Recipe I tried or want to try soon:
I just found a really nice sounding salsa recipe that I'd love to try. And a nice fruit salad recipe I'd like to make.
In the craft basket:
Never really any good at crafts.
Looking forward to this week:
Kids getting out of school and being able to sleep in!
Tips and Tricks:
Put a password on your laptop! It keeps your kids off of it and leaves it all for you :)
My favorite blog post this week:
The week's just started...I'll let you know!
Blog Hopping (a new discovered blog you would like to share with the readers):
Unfortunately I haven't had a chance to read anything
No words needed (favorite photo or picture, yours or others you want to share):
Lesson learned the past few days:
taking all 3 kids to the pool by myself usually ends up turning into a nightmare.
On my mind:
how the boys want to go to the pool but I really don't want to take them by myself!
Devotionals, Scripture Reading, Key Verses:
Sorry not into that really.
Monday Minute
I'm linking up this week for Monday Minute! First time linking up with The Daily Dose of Reality. Check it out and link up too!
This week's questions are...
1 - Have you ever had any feelings towards one of your teachers back in the day?
Oh I've had plenty of teachers that were "hot". But no way would I ever act on it! LOL
2 - What's the most embarrassing thing that happened while at work?
If I can't remember it couldn't have been that embarrassing right? I'm sure there were plenty of times when I was waiting tables that I tripped and either dropped food, or spilled something. I'm clumsy like that :P
3 - When was the last time youcrapped yourself sharted?
OMG that happened to me last year! So not cool!
4 - What is one thing you have always kept a secret and why have you kept this a secret for so long?
Everyone has secrets right?! And if we told people it wouldn't be a secret duh! I can say that if I kept a secret it would be because it was something that I was ashamed of, or didn't want people to know about and judge me for.
and finally...
5 - What's your best advice for us habitual coffee drinkers as to not have to poop right after drinking it?
umm have some cheese with it?! I dunno. I'm not really a coffee drinker, and since being pregnant I can't even stand the smell of coffee!
1 - Have you ever had any feelings towards one of your teachers back in the day?
Oh I've had plenty of teachers that were "hot". But no way would I ever act on it! LOL
2 - What's the most embarrassing thing that happened while at work?
If I can't remember it couldn't have been that embarrassing right? I'm sure there were plenty of times when I was waiting tables that I tripped and either dropped food, or spilled something. I'm clumsy like that :P
3 - When was the last time you
OMG that happened to me last year! So not cool!
4 - What is one thing you have always kept a secret and why have you kept this a secret for so long?
Everyone has secrets right?! And if we told people it wouldn't be a secret duh! I can say that if I kept a secret it would be because it was something that I was ashamed of, or didn't want people to know about and judge me for.
and finally...
5 - What's your best advice for us habitual coffee drinkers as to not have to poop right after drinking it?
umm have some cheese with it?! I dunno. I'm not really a coffee drinker, and since being pregnant I can't even stand the smell of coffee!
Thursday, June 17, 2010
Letters of Intent and Happy Friday Follow!
Linking up today with Foursons for letters of intent! Go to her blog and check out other letters written by other bloggers! You're sure to laugh, you're sure to cry, you're sure to link your own post up!
Dear School System:
Can I ask what is the point behind the last 3 days of school being 1/2 days? I mean seriously, tomorrow is the last full day of school. Then Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday I need to take the boys to school at 9:20 and then pick them up at 12:55pm. What's the point? It isn't like they're going to do anything! That isn't enough time for me to do anything either!
Basically tomorrow is the last day of school. Then they'll have 3 days to play around with their friends for 3 hours each day. I should just keep them home Monday-Wednesday, but that would start my summer headache a few days early and I'm not ready to do that yet! I think whomever makes the school calender needs to have more common sense.
Sincerely,
A mother who thinks this is pointless.
If you're here from Friday Follow....Welcome!!
My name is Heather and I'm the grumpy ol' troll who lives inside this blog. ;) I'm a mother to 3 of the cutest, roughest, most awesome, toughest, boys on the planet. I'm pregnant with our 4th (and last!) child.
Pull up a chair and read a few entries! Leave a comment to make me feel better for sitting here blogging instead of doing the laundry.
16 weeks
Today I had my 16 week OB appt. After the fiasco at my previous appt (which you can read about here)
I was both excited and nervous to go today. Today I finally saw a high risk doctor. He was very nice. When he came in the room he asked if I had any questions. I told him I actually had quite a few! LOL
He told me that he was going to listen to the heartbeat first and then we would go over all my questions and any other things we needed to go over.
He put the doppler to my belly and immediately we heard the nice strong heartbeat. We listened to it for a minute before he turned it off. He didn't give me a range or anything, but it was definitely normal.
I sat up and he looked to see if they had received my operative report from my last c-section that I had with Avery. They hadn't. He told me to call the hospital Avery was born at and speak with medical records. He told me to tell them that I needed a copy of my last operative report sent to my new OB.
He asked me if I remembered what was said during my last c-section and I told him everything. He said because of the issues I had last time that there is no way we want to wait till 39 weeks to deliver this baby. He said his suggestion would be to schedule a amniocentesis at 37 weeks. If the baby's lungs are mature that day then the very next day we would go in for the c-section. Should the baby's lungs not be mature we would schedule the c-section for 38 weeks and not a day later.
I tried to talk him into a sonogram today by telling him about the huge descrepency in my due dates between them and what the specialist has. I told him that the difference is almost 2 weeks and that could mean the difference between rupturing and not rupturing. He completely agreed with me. Although he said that until I am 24 weeks there is really nothing to be concerned about. He told me at 24 weeks is when we would start monitoring for problems with my uterus. Since my anatomy sonogram is in 2 1/2 weeks he said we could wait until that sonogram and we would go by that sono to determine due date. He said we would also go by that sonogram to schedule the amnio and the c-section.
I don't know how but I also have lost 3 lbs since my last appt! LOL I definitely am not trying to lose weight right now, but I surely am not complaining either. He wasn't concerned at all obviously cause he never even mentioned it. Blood pressure and urine was completely fine too.
Sent me home with the lab sheet for my AFP test, so I need to go tomorrow to get more blood drawn *woohoo* .
So a completely uneventful appt, which don't get me wrong is wonderful for me for this pregnancy. And I was very happy with the doctor I had this time and the way he answered my questions.
Still wish I would have gotten that sonogram today though LOL. I was hoping for a little peek to see if we could see the sex of the baby so it can stop driving me nuts!
I was both excited and nervous to go today. Today I finally saw a high risk doctor. He was very nice. When he came in the room he asked if I had any questions. I told him I actually had quite a few! LOL
He told me that he was going to listen to the heartbeat first and then we would go over all my questions and any other things we needed to go over.
He put the doppler to my belly and immediately we heard the nice strong heartbeat. We listened to it for a minute before he turned it off. He didn't give me a range or anything, but it was definitely normal.
I sat up and he looked to see if they had received my operative report from my last c-section that I had with Avery. They hadn't. He told me to call the hospital Avery was born at and speak with medical records. He told me to tell them that I needed a copy of my last operative report sent to my new OB.
He asked me if I remembered what was said during my last c-section and I told him everything. He said because of the issues I had last time that there is no way we want to wait till 39 weeks to deliver this baby. He said his suggestion would be to schedule a amniocentesis at 37 weeks. If the baby's lungs are mature that day then the very next day we would go in for the c-section. Should the baby's lungs not be mature we would schedule the c-section for 38 weeks and not a day later.
I tried to talk him into a sonogram today by telling him about the huge descrepency in my due dates between them and what the specialist has. I told him that the difference is almost 2 weeks and that could mean the difference between rupturing and not rupturing. He completely agreed with me. Although he said that until I am 24 weeks there is really nothing to be concerned about. He told me at 24 weeks is when we would start monitoring for problems with my uterus. Since my anatomy sonogram is in 2 1/2 weeks he said we could wait until that sonogram and we would go by that sono to determine due date. He said we would also go by that sonogram to schedule the amnio and the c-section.
I don't know how but I also have lost 3 lbs since my last appt! LOL I definitely am not trying to lose weight right now, but I surely am not complaining either. He wasn't concerned at all obviously cause he never even mentioned it. Blood pressure and urine was completely fine too.
Sent me home with the lab sheet for my AFP test, so I need to go tomorrow to get more blood drawn *woohoo* .
So a completely uneventful appt, which don't get me wrong is wonderful for me for this pregnancy. And I was very happy with the doctor I had this time and the way he answered my questions.
Still wish I would have gotten that sonogram today though LOL. I was hoping for a little peek to see if we could see the sex of the baby so it can stop driving me nuts!
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
Pour My Heart Out - On being a mom to boys
I have 3 boys. That's no secret. I seriously can't tell you how many times I've gotten comments from people about having all boys. Things from "all boys huh?!" to "what you didn't want a girl?" There's been some stupid comments, and some very funny comments.
Being a mom to all boys is something that only another mom to all boys can understand. It's almost like there is this secret "bond" there that us mom's of boys have. You know that "wave" all motorcyclists give each other? Or even the "nod" that happens between guys wearing the same team jersey. Moms of boys belong to their own little club.
When I got pregnant with my third child and found out it was another boy there was a lot of feelings that went through my head. I wrote a blog entry about it, and this is what I said....
When the lady said during the ultrasound "Do you know what that is?" when she scanned over the penis, My heart sank. I immediately knew, hell I've seen it twice already. I said "It's a boy." and gave a huge sigh. She said "yep, there's the penis". Roy patted my thigh and asked if I was ok. I said "I'm ok" while holding back the tears. We went through the rest of the sonogram, and saw everything perfect and normal. We heard his heartrate (at 160 bpm) and I said outloud "That's girl range...I'm really upset". Roy patted my leg again, and we continued on. She listened to the blood going through the umbilical cord, his chest, his brain, etc. Everything showing perfectly normal. She got pictures of his fingers, toes, face, etc. All which show a lot better on my pictures then they scanned in. She said because of the size of my other two boys she wants me to come back in 6 weeks for another sonogram, and in 6 weeks after that for a final one. As of right now he is measuring right on schedule at 20 weeks. He weighs 14 oz. All my tests for cystic fibrosis, down syndrome, etc have come back negative and normal. He's perfect.
As we left the hospital and walked down the sidewalk Roy grabbed my hand and asked if I was ok. I said "I'm better than I thought I would be." And while we walked to the car Roy kept saying "it's ok" and " I wanted a girl too" The tears started to fall (as they are while I'm typing this now) and I said "I still want a big stork in the front yard" Roy said "why wouldn't you get it?" And I said "Because you said only if it was a girl could I get it" and Roy claims he doesn't remember saying that, and that I could definately have one. Part of me knows he doing it just to make me feel better.
We got in the car and I called Christine (my neighbor) I said "you know those girl clothes you have?" and she said "The girl clothes? Yeah...do you need them???" and I said "you can get rid of them." She squeeled and then laughed and asked if Roy was giving me the emotional support I needed. I told her yeah, and she said how happy she was for me. I hung up with her and Roy called his boss. He said to his boss "what is the only thing you have that I don't? Besides a 10 inch penis" (LMAO) Then Roy said "yep a third boy". **sidenote** Roy's boss told him not to try for a third because he ended up having a third boy when they tried for a girl and his exact words were "I love my youngest son, but if I had to do it over again I wouldn't do it." So Roy's boss laughed at him and then they hung up.
Roy asked if I wanted to go out to lunch before my next appt and I said yeah. He took me to Rocky Run, which is one of my favorite places to eat. While we ate lunch I called my dad and told him. He said "another boy, how wonderful congratulations!!" and called my mom who said "oh lord." and "All that matters is that he's healthy and perfect, god forbid should it have been a girl and something been wrong."
We ate lunch and talked about nothing really. It was nice to get out without the kids, and have a conversation that had nothing to do with kids.
Went to my 20 week OB appt and heartrate was 156, BP was normal, I've gained 8 lbs so far, and the doctor asked if we found out the sex and I said "yeah it's another boy" and she kinda smiled and said "You have half of a baseball team now!"
We went back to MIL's and her response was "You're gonna stop after this one right? you aren't gonna have like 10 trying for a girl are you?" My jaw dropped. Roy looked at me then said to his mom "First of all how many we have is none of your business. Second of all I'm not talking to you right now about something that may happen a few years down the road. (this surprised me for a few reasons. 1) Roy has always said that after the third is born 2 months later he was getting snipped. And 2) that left the option open for always trying again in the future if we decided to do so)
We came home instead of going to the ren faire, and later friday evening I called my mom again. I told her what my MIL had said and my mom said "Heather, would you seriously think of having a 4th?" And I lost it at that point and said "Mom, the rational side of me says no way, but I don't know if I could honestly live without ever having a daughter." And my mom said "You could have 6 before you had a girl" and I said "I know, and that's why part of me says no" and she said again how he is healthy and that's all that matters etc etc. I said "I don't know why everyone is so god damn happy that it's a boy" and she said "Because he's healthy."
*sigh*
I told my mom that "I sincerely hope I wake up tomorrow morning and I'm happy and excited about another boy". She said "well maybe not tomorrow...but it will happen."
Now, there's no way I could imagine my life without my third son. He is seriously the best thing to ever happen to me.
Three months after I had my third son my sister gave birth to my niece. When my mom squeeled with delight and then went to see my sister as soon as she got home from the hospital I questioned why she would do that but completely ignore the fact that my son was born 3 months before that. Her response was one I will never ever forget.
"He's just another boy Heather. Nothing special about him. This one is a girl!!"
Now that I'm pregnant again and will be finding out the sex in just about 2 1/2 weeks all these feelings are starting to come up again. I've been trying so hard to prepare myself for the fact that it is very possible, and most likely will be another boy. How will I handle that? Will I be ok with that news? Can I get just as excited about this boy as my other three?
One thing I do know is that boy or girl I will/do love this baby just as much as I love my other boys.
And if it is another boy, I know that all the other moms will only boys will continue to give me the secret nod/shake/wave and we'll continue to be able to know that only us other moms of only boys know exactly what each other is feeling like.
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
The Single Married Mother
Ok so it's time for a "serious" entry. I've had this entry brewing for a while now. Excuse me while I vent a little bit.
Sometimes I feel like a single mom. I've been married for 9 years on monday, and still sometimes it sure doesn't seem like it. The feeling mainly happens during school functions for my boys.
My husband does NOT attend school functions. Ever. I can tell you that he's attended a school function exactly 2 times. TWICE! My oldest son is 8 years old and going into 3rd grade. So he's gone Twice in the almost 5 years of a kid going to school.
If you're on my facebook you already know about this, but I'm going to tell the story again for everyone else.
The other day my older boys' school had a "end of the year picnic". It started at 5pm and afterwards they were having a "parent vs staff kickball game." Now of course I wasn't planning on participating in that, but I wanted to go to the picnic with the boys so they could celebrate the end of the school year with their friends and teachers. My husband didn't really give me a hard time about going which was surprising. I packed our picnic lunch, got a blanket, got everyone ready and after talking to my husband we decided to walk up to the school to avoid trying to find a parking spot. We walked up to the school and as soon as we got there my husband said "are you sure you want to do this? We can just go home you know and not deal with this." I told him of course I wanted to do it and to suck it up. We set up our blanket and the boys started saying hi to their friends and everything. We ate our dinner and 10 minutes later I said to my husband "we should have driven, it would have made it easier to take everything home." My husband then said to me "Do you want me to go get the car and come right back?" I said "if you want to." So he said to me "Ok I'll go get the car, I'll be back in 15 min." He got up and walked down the street to the house. The older boys ran off to play with their friends and Avery and I started watching the staff vs parent kickball game. An hour and 20 min later the game was over and everyone was starting to clean up their stuff and leave. Needless to say my husband still hadn't come back. I packed up everything and grabbed my cell (which I am SO glad I brought being hubby told me to leave it at home) and called my husband. He answered the phone and before I could say anything he said "I'm on my way." He pulled up a minute later and got out of the car with this big smile on his face. I was SO mad. I told him how ridiculous he was and how I couldn't believe he would leave his wife and kids at a picnic and say he'll be "right back" and then not come back till I called him to come get us! He claimed he didn't want to be there and that the kids told him they wanted to stay so he just stayed home until we were ready to come home.
Most of the time he just refuses to go.
If it's not an evening activity then it's always the excuse "I'm at work I can't". He's never gone to a "dad's and donuts" morning at school. Never gone to a concert, awards assembly, teacher conference, etc etc.
Now I completely understand how he gets up for work at 4:30am. I understand how most fathers don't start work till 9am so being "an hour late" isn't an option for my husband. These other dads can just tell work they'll be a little late. By the time they start work my husband is half way done with his day. He doesn't think there's any point in going in at 5am and leaving work at 9am to go to a school function and then going back to work at 10 and being there for another 2 hours.
But don't you think it would mean THE WORLD to the boys?! If their dad showed up for these dad and me functions or their concert or when they get an award? Even if dad went on a field trip once a year instead of mom doing it.
I try my best to do everything I possibly can when it comes to school things with the kids. I can't get to everything for everyone being that I have 3 kids in 2 different schools having functions. But I attend 90% of their things. And I attend them alone.
What brought this up for me today is the fact that today is my kindergarteners end of the year/kindergarten graduation family picnic and party. Of course I'm going to be there! And when I think about how many fathers will probably be there. Some in suits and ties, some only there for an hour of the 3 hour event, but still showing up. Some who took the day off for this celebration. And where is my son's father? At work. Didn't say a word to my son about his "big day" today. Didn't tell me to make sure to take lots of pictures. Didn't do any of that.
Tomorrow my almost 3rd grader has his end of the year party and family picnic. He then has a concert right afterwards. Does my husband plan on being there? No.
I'm sure the school (and parents at the school) think I'm a single mom.
And it's times like this that I feel like a single married mother.
Sometimes I feel like a single mom. I've been married for 9 years on monday, and still sometimes it sure doesn't seem like it. The feeling mainly happens during school functions for my boys.
My husband does NOT attend school functions. Ever. I can tell you that he's attended a school function exactly 2 times. TWICE! My oldest son is 8 years old and going into 3rd grade. So he's gone Twice in the almost 5 years of a kid going to school.
If you're on my facebook you already know about this, but I'm going to tell the story again for everyone else.
The other day my older boys' school had a "end of the year picnic". It started at 5pm and afterwards they were having a "parent vs staff kickball game." Now of course I wasn't planning on participating in that, but I wanted to go to the picnic with the boys so they could celebrate the end of the school year with their friends and teachers. My husband didn't really give me a hard time about going which was surprising. I packed our picnic lunch, got a blanket, got everyone ready and after talking to my husband we decided to walk up to the school to avoid trying to find a parking spot. We walked up to the school and as soon as we got there my husband said "are you sure you want to do this? We can just go home you know and not deal with this." I told him of course I wanted to do it and to suck it up. We set up our blanket and the boys started saying hi to their friends and everything. We ate our dinner and 10 minutes later I said to my husband "we should have driven, it would have made it easier to take everything home." My husband then said to me "Do you want me to go get the car and come right back?" I said "if you want to." So he said to me "Ok I'll go get the car, I'll be back in 15 min." He got up and walked down the street to the house. The older boys ran off to play with their friends and Avery and I started watching the staff vs parent kickball game. An hour and 20 min later the game was over and everyone was starting to clean up their stuff and leave. Needless to say my husband still hadn't come back. I packed up everything and grabbed my cell (which I am SO glad I brought being hubby told me to leave it at home) and called my husband. He answered the phone and before I could say anything he said "I'm on my way." He pulled up a minute later and got out of the car with this big smile on his face. I was SO mad. I told him how ridiculous he was and how I couldn't believe he would leave his wife and kids at a picnic and say he'll be "right back" and then not come back till I called him to come get us! He claimed he didn't want to be there and that the kids told him they wanted to stay so he just stayed home until we were ready to come home.
Most of the time he just refuses to go.
If it's not an evening activity then it's always the excuse "I'm at work I can't". He's never gone to a "dad's and donuts" morning at school. Never gone to a concert, awards assembly, teacher conference, etc etc.
Now I completely understand how he gets up for work at 4:30am. I understand how most fathers don't start work till 9am so being "an hour late" isn't an option for my husband. These other dads can just tell work they'll be a little late. By the time they start work my husband is half way done with his day. He doesn't think there's any point in going in at 5am and leaving work at 9am to go to a school function and then going back to work at 10 and being there for another 2 hours.
But don't you think it would mean THE WORLD to the boys?! If their dad showed up for these dad and me functions or their concert or when they get an award? Even if dad went on a field trip once a year instead of mom doing it.
I try my best to do everything I possibly can when it comes to school things with the kids. I can't get to everything for everyone being that I have 3 kids in 2 different schools having functions. But I attend 90% of their things. And I attend them alone.
What brought this up for me today is the fact that today is my kindergarteners end of the year/kindergarten graduation family picnic and party. Of course I'm going to be there! And when I think about how many fathers will probably be there. Some in suits and ties, some only there for an hour of the 3 hour event, but still showing up. Some who took the day off for this celebration. And where is my son's father? At work. Didn't say a word to my son about his "big day" today. Didn't tell me to make sure to take lots of pictures. Didn't do any of that.
Tomorrow my almost 3rd grader has his end of the year party and family picnic. He then has a concert right afterwards. Does my husband plan on being there? No.
I'm sure the school (and parents at the school) think I'm a single mom.
And it's times like this that I feel like a single married mother.
The Happiness Project - Testosterone World
Today I'm linking up with Leigh Vs Laundry for the Happiness Project!
This is the my first time linking up with her, so I hope I do this right!
Something that makes me happy....
Those boys are what makes me happy. Yes they drive me nuts most of the time. Yes they make me feel like I am THAT mom. But I don't know how I ever lived without them in my life.
Monday, June 14, 2010
I heart Faces - week 24 Babies
Week 24 - June 14th - "All About Babies"
We are going to celebrate itty-bitty babies this week...anywhere from babies still in mom's belly... to newborns... to little babies who still aren't taking their first steps. Since we know that not everyone has access to a teeny-tiny little one, we are expanding this week's theme to include baby animals or baby accessories as well (ie. little booties that a baby would wear, or a special baby hat, etc.) Enter a photo that you feel best shows off the theme of "baby" for you.
This photo is a picture of my now 6 year old holding my now 3 year old when he was just born. Could they really have been that small before?! Seems impossible!
We are going to celebrate itty-bitty babies this week...anywhere from babies still in mom's belly... to newborns... to little babies who still aren't taking their first steps. Since we know that not everyone has access to a teeny-tiny little one, we are expanding this week's theme to include baby animals or baby accessories as well (ie. little booties that a baby would wear, or a special baby hat, etc.) Enter a photo that you feel best shows off the theme of "baby" for you.
This photo is a picture of my now 6 year old holding my now 3 year old when he was just born. Could they really have been that small before?! Seems impossible!
Make sure to go to I♥faces to get your baby fix in by clicking the picture below!!
Friday, June 11, 2010
Happy Friday Follow, Friday Blog Hop! And Guest Blogger!
hello there!! Glad to have you visiting my blog. If you're here from Friday follow or Friday Blog Hop, please pull up a chair, grab a cup of coffee and have a look around! This blog has a little of everything. You'll find happiness, tears, stress and all that!
You'll see that sometimes I tell it like it is and you'll love me for it I'm sure :)
I have a guest blogger today too!! Go check out Birthday Party Dilemma the blog from my Guest Blogger Mommy Loves Stilettos! If you haven't read Michelle, what are you waiting for?? She's awesome! And she's having a giveaway going on right now!
♥Birthday Party Dilemma
Hey there! I'm Michelle from Mommy Loves Stilettos and I am so excited to be guest posting on Heather's blog! Heather and I are bloggy friends from WAY back and I just love her so I feel all honored to be posting on her blog :)
I'm going to share with you a post from a couple of months back. Why? Cause I'm not feeling like an overachiever today and because it's always good to hear what other mom's think of my crazy thoughts! :)
If you read me already you may remember my post on crazy girl scout mom. If not, go read it!
Crazy Girl Scout Mom's daughter's birthday party is today. So naturally I’ve got a dilemma here. I don’t really want Katelyn to go. Why? Well because she’s CRAZY girl scout mom. But at the same time, she’s probably harmless. I mean, my only judgement (I know, bad) is that she is just overly strict on her six year old and that the poor girl is going to grow up with some serious issues. I asked Katelyn if she wanted to go to the party and of course she wants to go because all of her friends are going.
So – off to Target a few nights ago to buy a present. Now, here’s another dilemma. What the hell kind of present do I buy? We are perusing Target and Katelyn picks out a Moxie girl because the birthday girl likes dolls. Well, I nixed that idea….and QUICK. I don’t let my daughter play with Bratz dolls because they look like street walkers – and Moxie girlz are close to that. I mean, if I don't really think they are appropriate, can you imagine what would happen if crazy girl scout mom knew I sent these as a present??
And I sure as hell don’t want to be THAT mom that send a whoreish birthday gift for a six/seven year old. I then suggest a board game. Her mom has to allow those right? Ok, so we walk over there and Katelyn looks around and then says, “mom I don’t think that’s a good idea.”
"Why???"
“Because birthday girl does a LOT of stuff. She’s like the BEST ice skater ever, she does girlscouts, soccer, t-ball, basketball…….etc. She doesn’t have TIME for a board game.”
I’m thinking WTF. What KID doesn’t have time for a board game at that age??? Apparently this is a parenting FAIL for me because my daughter has all the time in the world for board games people! She has her activities but her schedule is not that full and I can promise you it never will be. I’m all for kids being involved in extracurriculars…but really…isn’t that a bit much for a seven year old? There I go being judgemental again. Anyway – after all was said and done we settled on something similar to this because Katelyn insisted that birthday girl likes them.
Seriously, it shouldn’t take that long to pick out a birthday gift. But this mom is intense I tell you!
Then I get home and I look at the invitation to see what time the party is . It’s at some country club (WTF for seven year olds?) and they are supposed to come “dressed up with their favorite doll”. Well I’ll be honest, Kate is not a doll girl. She’s just not into them and has never really been into them. She’s owned them and never played with them and gave them away. We have one doll that is not a Barbie and it’s a babydoll that she named Cole. I bought it for her when I was pregnant with Cole to get her used to the idea of a baby brother. She’s hung onto it all this time and he’s…well he’s dingy. Ha. He’s missing his clothes and I don’t know where they are. The face is dirty. I cannot send a dirty naked Cole baby with her to this party! Damn it,
I’m screwed. I guess I’m going back to Target.
I'm going to share with you a post from a couple of months back. Why? Cause I'm not feeling like an overachiever today and because it's always good to hear what other mom's think of my crazy thoughts! :)
If you read me already you may remember my post on crazy girl scout mom. If not, go read it!
Crazy Girl Scout Mom's daughter's birthday party is today. So naturally I’ve got a dilemma here. I don’t really want Katelyn to go. Why? Well because she’s CRAZY girl scout mom. But at the same time, she’s probably harmless. I mean, my only judgement (I know, bad) is that she is just overly strict on her six year old and that the poor girl is going to grow up with some serious issues. I asked Katelyn if she wanted to go to the party and of course she wants to go because all of her friends are going.
So – off to Target a few nights ago to buy a present. Now, here’s another dilemma. What the hell kind of present do I buy? We are perusing Target and Katelyn picks out a Moxie girl because the birthday girl likes dolls. Well, I nixed that idea….and QUICK. I don’t let my daughter play with Bratz dolls because they look like street walkers – and Moxie girlz are close to that. I mean, if I don't really think they are appropriate, can you imagine what would happen if crazy girl scout mom knew I sent these as a present??
And I sure as hell don’t want to be THAT mom that send a whoreish birthday gift for a six/seven year old. I then suggest a board game. Her mom has to allow those right? Ok, so we walk over there and Katelyn looks around and then says, “mom I don’t think that’s a good idea.”
"Why???"
“Because birthday girl does a LOT of stuff. She’s like the BEST ice skater ever, she does girlscouts, soccer, t-ball, basketball…….etc. She doesn’t have TIME for a board game.”
I’m thinking WTF. What KID doesn’t have time for a board game at that age??? Apparently this is a parenting FAIL for me because my daughter has all the time in the world for board games people! She has her activities but her schedule is not that full and I can promise you it never will be. I’m all for kids being involved in extracurriculars…but really…isn’t that a bit much for a seven year old? There I go being judgemental again. Anyway – after all was said and done we settled on something similar to this because Katelyn insisted that birthday girl likes them.
Seriously, it shouldn’t take that long to pick out a birthday gift. But this mom is intense I tell you!
Then I get home and I look at the invitation to see what time the party is . It’s at some country club (WTF for seven year olds?) and they are supposed to come “dressed up with their favorite doll”. Well I’ll be honest, Kate is not a doll girl. She’s just not into them and has never really been into them. She’s owned them and never played with them and gave them away. We have one doll that is not a Barbie and it’s a babydoll that she named Cole. I bought it for her when I was pregnant with Cole to get her used to the idea of a baby brother. She’s hung onto it all this time and he’s…well he’s dingy. Ha. He’s missing his clothes and I don’t know where they are. The face is dirty. I cannot send a dirty naked Cole baby with her to this party! Damn it,
I’m screwed. I guess I’m going back to Target.
Thursday, June 10, 2010
Can't wait for vacation!
So my last post was a blog I wrote a few years ago. If you haven't read it yet go back now and read it!
Summertime Scary Days
So since that incident I've had the boys in swim lessons. Still to this day Aidan absolutely flips out should he get into water where he can't reach the bottom of the pool. If during swim lessons the instructor wants them to "jump" into the 5 feet and swim back to the wall (with her right there) Aidan flips out. I'm talking full fledged crying and begging me not to make him do it. Saying he's scared. Saying he's going to drown etc etc.
He doesn't want to take swim lessons anymore. I've told Roy that is absolutely out of the question. He NEEDS them. He HAS TO take them. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.
The outdoor pools around here have a section on the deck with life jackets for non swimmers. Aidan will not go in the water without a life jacket on. I've told him he'll never learn to swim if he is always wearing a life jacket. He doesn't care. It's very inconvienant because if your child has a life jacket on then an adult must be "within arms reach". Difficult when I have 3 kids wearing life jackets!
So anyways, this summer we've decided our vacation is going to be to Great Wolf Lodge.
We've never been before and I've always heard just such awesome great things about it. I'm so excited to go and think the boys will have so much fun. But it's a huge waterpark!
Do you see where my dilemma is??
I called Great Wolf Lodge and was told that life jackets can be worn both in the waterpark AND on ALL of the rides. Awesome! Great! Aidan (and Austin) will be so happy.
At the same time again I say to myself "he's never going to learn to swim if he's able to wear a life jacket all the time!" But I know that at least with a life jacket on he'll ride the rides and have fun. It's such a dilemma though!
At first I was thinking of that saying "get right back on the horse." Figuring if I got him in swim lessons and took him to the pool he'd learn to swim, and get over his fear after the incident. Now I'm thinking, "what if he is like this forever?!"
*sigh*
Any Advice? Thoughts?
Summertime Scary Days
So since that incident I've had the boys in swim lessons. Still to this day Aidan absolutely flips out should he get into water where he can't reach the bottom of the pool. If during swim lessons the instructor wants them to "jump" into the 5 feet and swim back to the wall (with her right there) Aidan flips out. I'm talking full fledged crying and begging me not to make him do it. Saying he's scared. Saying he's going to drown etc etc.
He doesn't want to take swim lessons anymore. I've told Roy that is absolutely out of the question. He NEEDS them. He HAS TO take them. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.
The outdoor pools around here have a section on the deck with life jackets for non swimmers. Aidan will not go in the water without a life jacket on. I've told him he'll never learn to swim if he is always wearing a life jacket. He doesn't care. It's very inconvienant because if your child has a life jacket on then an adult must be "within arms reach". Difficult when I have 3 kids wearing life jackets!
So anyways, this summer we've decided our vacation is going to be to Great Wolf Lodge.
We've never been before and I've always heard just such awesome great things about it. I'm so excited to go and think the boys will have so much fun. But it's a huge waterpark!
Do you see where my dilemma is??
I called Great Wolf Lodge and was told that life jackets can be worn both in the waterpark AND on ALL of the rides. Awesome! Great! Aidan (and Austin) will be so happy.
At the same time again I say to myself "he's never going to learn to swim if he's able to wear a life jacket all the time!" But I know that at least with a life jacket on he'll ride the rides and have fun. It's such a dilemma though!
At first I was thinking of that saying "get right back on the horse." Figuring if I got him in swim lessons and took him to the pool he'd learn to swim, and get over his fear after the incident. Now I'm thinking, "what if he is like this forever?!"
*sigh*
Any Advice? Thoughts?
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
Summertime Scary Days
This blog was originally written back on June 12th of 2007. I will tell you the reason I'm re-writing this blog in my next entry.
This was by far the scariest day of my life (so far!)
Blog from June 12, 2007-
We got up at 6:20 this morning (and the boys didn't even go to sleep till 10pm last night!!). We sat around here for a while, then got in the shower, checked the weather report to hear that today was supposed to be sunny with a high of 79 and tomorrow a chance of thunderstorms high of 72. So we decided to use today to hit the waterpark instead of the beach. The ocean is much to cold to swim in anyway...so sitting on the beach playing in the sand sounds a lot nicer in the cooler 72 degree weather LOL. First off let me just say that I wasn't to pleased with the waterpark. It's more of a "pool" than a park. In the sense that it has a wave pool and a kiddie area with a lazy "river" (a small oval) and kiddie slides in the middle of a kiddie pool that had different structures in it to climb on. The "slides" were the size of a backyard slide. Then at the other side of the park was the actual "water slides" for like older kids and adults.
When we first got there Aidan immediately wanted to go on the big water slides. We spoke with a lifeguard who told us that "the red and blue side are tandem slides". So We decided I would stay at the bottom with the baby who was in the stroller and Austin who didn't meet the height requirements to ride, and that Roy would take Aidan and go on the slide with him. They headed up the stairs and I walked to the bottom of the slides and got the camera ready. It seemed to take forever but finally I saw someone coming down the slide. I snapped a picture and realized it wasn't Aidan or Roy. I said to Austin "Oh that's not daddy and Aidan" and the guy said to me "oh I think the people you're talking about are coming down right behind us. I thanked him and got ready again. Next thing you know I see Aidan coming down the slide.....head first.....on his belly. I IMMEDIATELY dropped the camera, let go of the stroller and started running towards the "pool" at the bottom of slide. As I saw Aidan go under the water and not come back up I started screaming at the top of my lungs at the lifeguard that was on the side of the "pool". I was screaming "OMG HE CAN'T SWIM!!!!! HE'S UNDERWATER...HE CAN'T SWIM!!!" I was basically hurdling the fence at this point and it seemed like everything was in slow motion. I saw Aidan under the water, his eyes were HUGE and he was trying desperately to get to the top. The lifeguard didn't seem to be moving and I couldn't get there fast enough. I'm screaming and screaming. I was at the edge of the pool about to jump in myself when the lifeguard dove in and grabbed Aidan. She pulled him out of the water and his eyes were as big as soccer balls. I'm screaming his name and his mouth is just wide open. That's when I realized it....He wasn't breathing!! The lifeguard gave his stomach one big heilmich manuever push kinda thing and all this water came out of his mouth and he started coughing and crying. I grabbed him and just held him. I was crying, he was crying, and then I noticed the innertube came down after Aidan did. I asked Aidan "where's daddy?" Aidan said "daddy promised he's be at the bottom to catch me, he promised mommy." I asked him what happened to the innertube and he didn't answer. He just kept repeating "I was scared to death mommy, I was scared to death" I told him that I was right there and I would NEVER let ANYTHING happen to him EVER. At that point the lifeguard said for us to stay put that she needed to contact her superviser because of what had happened. It was THEN that I noticed Roy. He was walking towards us with a big smile on his face. A SMILE! After our son had almost DROWNED. I went off. "What the fuck where you thinking??" "He almost drowned Roy!" " the lifeguard had to save him" Roy said "he's fine Heather" "FINE?? HE CAN'T SWIM ROY!, what were you thinking?!? HE ALMOST DIED!" Roy said "The lifeguard at the top said the only way to ride tandem was to rent a tandem tube, so I asked Aidan if he wanted to go down by himself and he said yes"
"OMG OF COURSE HE SAID YES ROY!!" "HE CAN'T SWIM!!!!!!!! ARE YOU OUT OF YOUR MIND LETTING HIM GO BY HIMSELF?"
I was so scared I was shaking. I still hadnt put Aidan down, and the supervisor came over and made sure he was ok and asked if everything was ok. I told her that his father should NEVER have let him go down by himself that he couldn't swim, but that everything was ok now. She gave Aidan and Austin some free life vests to use for the rest of the day. Obviously at SOME point while going down the slide Aidan flipped off of the innertube. Not that it matters anyway, cause even with the innertube he should NEVER have been allowed to go down by himself.
As soon as we get home he's going right into swim lessons and I'll be damned if I EVER trust Roy again at an amusement park with my kids again. I've kept telling him all day "You tried to drown my son"
He's so nonchalant about the whole thing. Just keeps kinda laughing about it and saying "he's fine Heather" Yeah he is fine....NO THANKS TO YOU!" And poor Aidan just keeps saying "I was scared to death mommy" and telling Roy "Bad daddy, you hurt me, I couldn't get up in the water, I tried and tried, but the water wasn't letting me up"
It was by far the scariest day of my life.
This was by far the scariest day of my life (so far!)
Blog from June 12, 2007-
We got up at 6:20 this morning (and the boys didn't even go to sleep till 10pm last night!!). We sat around here for a while, then got in the shower, checked the weather report to hear that today was supposed to be sunny with a high of 79 and tomorrow a chance of thunderstorms high of 72. So we decided to use today to hit the waterpark instead of the beach. The ocean is much to cold to swim in anyway...so sitting on the beach playing in the sand sounds a lot nicer in the cooler 72 degree weather LOL. First off let me just say that I wasn't to pleased with the waterpark. It's more of a "pool" than a park. In the sense that it has a wave pool and a kiddie area with a lazy "river" (a small oval) and kiddie slides in the middle of a kiddie pool that had different structures in it to climb on. The "slides" were the size of a backyard slide. Then at the other side of the park was the actual "water slides" for like older kids and adults.
When we first got there Aidan immediately wanted to go on the big water slides. We spoke with a lifeguard who told us that "the red and blue side are tandem slides". So We decided I would stay at the bottom with the baby who was in the stroller and Austin who didn't meet the height requirements to ride, and that Roy would take Aidan and go on the slide with him. They headed up the stairs and I walked to the bottom of the slides and got the camera ready. It seemed to take forever but finally I saw someone coming down the slide. I snapped a picture and realized it wasn't Aidan or Roy. I said to Austin "Oh that's not daddy and Aidan" and the guy said to me "oh I think the people you're talking about are coming down right behind us. I thanked him and got ready again. Next thing you know I see Aidan coming down the slide.....head first.....on his belly. I IMMEDIATELY dropped the camera, let go of the stroller and started running towards the "pool" at the bottom of slide. As I saw Aidan go under the water and not come back up I started screaming at the top of my lungs at the lifeguard that was on the side of the "pool". I was screaming "OMG HE CAN'T SWIM!!!!! HE'S UNDERWATER...HE CAN'T SWIM!!!" I was basically hurdling the fence at this point and it seemed like everything was in slow motion. I saw Aidan under the water, his eyes were HUGE and he was trying desperately to get to the top. The lifeguard didn't seem to be moving and I couldn't get there fast enough. I'm screaming and screaming. I was at the edge of the pool about to jump in myself when the lifeguard dove in and grabbed Aidan. She pulled him out of the water and his eyes were as big as soccer balls. I'm screaming his name and his mouth is just wide open. That's when I realized it....He wasn't breathing!! The lifeguard gave his stomach one big heilmich manuever push kinda thing and all this water came out of his mouth and he started coughing and crying. I grabbed him and just held him. I was crying, he was crying, and then I noticed the innertube came down after Aidan did. I asked Aidan "where's daddy?" Aidan said "daddy promised he's be at the bottom to catch me, he promised mommy." I asked him what happened to the innertube and he didn't answer. He just kept repeating "I was scared to death mommy, I was scared to death" I told him that I was right there and I would NEVER let ANYTHING happen to him EVER. At that point the lifeguard said for us to stay put that she needed to contact her superviser because of what had happened. It was THEN that I noticed Roy. He was walking towards us with a big smile on his face. A SMILE! After our son had almost DROWNED. I went off. "What the fuck where you thinking??" "He almost drowned Roy!" " the lifeguard had to save him" Roy said "he's fine Heather" "FINE?? HE CAN'T SWIM ROY!, what were you thinking?!? HE ALMOST DIED!" Roy said "The lifeguard at the top said the only way to ride tandem was to rent a tandem tube, so I asked Aidan if he wanted to go down by himself and he said yes"
"OMG OF COURSE HE SAID YES ROY!!" "HE CAN'T SWIM!!!!!!!! ARE YOU OUT OF YOUR MIND LETTING HIM GO BY HIMSELF?"
I was so scared I was shaking. I still hadnt put Aidan down, and the supervisor came over and made sure he was ok and asked if everything was ok. I told her that his father should NEVER have let him go down by himself that he couldn't swim, but that everything was ok now. She gave Aidan and Austin some free life vests to use for the rest of the day. Obviously at SOME point while going down the slide Aidan flipped off of the innertube. Not that it matters anyway, cause even with the innertube he should NEVER have been allowed to go down by himself.
As soon as we get home he's going right into swim lessons and I'll be damned if I EVER trust Roy again at an amusement park with my kids again. I've kept telling him all day "You tried to drown my son"
He's so nonchalant about the whole thing. Just keeps kinda laughing about it and saying "he's fine Heather" Yeah he is fine....NO THANKS TO YOU!" And poor Aidan just keeps saying "I was scared to death mommy" and telling Roy "Bad daddy, you hurt me, I couldn't get up in the water, I tried and tried, but the water wasn't letting me up"
It was by far the scariest day of my life.
Looking for a Guest Blogger!
I'm looking for a guest blogger! I'd like to find someone to be a guest blogger on my blog. I'd like to start doing this once a week, so if it's something you would be interested in please email me! Mommyshiding (at) yahoo (dot) com.!
Looking for someone to blog about young children, raising young children, saving money, being fruggle, raising boys, having a big family, Apraxia, anything!!!
Do you know of a blogger who you really enjoy who may be interested?! Send them my way!
Are you interested in being a guest blogger on my blog?! Email me!
Looking for someone to blog about young children, raising young children, saving money, being fruggle, raising boys, having a big family, Apraxia, anything!!!
Do you know of a blogger who you really enjoy who may be interested?! Send them my way!
Are you interested in being a guest blogger on my blog?! Email me!
Monday, June 7, 2010
I Heart Faces week 23- Play
This week’s theme at I heart Faces is “Play”. This is the week to show off your little child, older children or oldest children (a.k.a. your spouse and friends) hard at play. This theme is very open - it can be a child playing in the sand, a hubby strumming his guitar, and older child participating in a sport or a friend sewing their latest creation. Whatever you think fits the theme of "play"...just make sure that there is a human face showing in your photo entry as well.
Aidan and Avery hard at play at the splash park :)
Aidan and Avery hard at play at the splash park :)
Be sure to head on over to iheartfaces to see more cuties at play!
Thursday, June 3, 2010
Regular Moms -vs- Special Needs Moms
Regular Moms vs Special Needs Moms
Moms, a stranger walks among you. We look like regular moms, but we are the hybrid to your standard engine. Our child’s disability altered us, enhanced us. Many words describe us: resilient, creative, protective, emboldened, sympathetic, fierce and determined. We are special needs moms. How do our lives stand apart from your own? Take a look under the hood and see for yourself.
by Dawn Villarreal, One Place for Special Needs, May 2010
Regular moms tell their kids to wake up and get dressed in the morning. And they do it.
Special needs moms put on battle gear to get our kids ready to start their day.
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Regular moms ask their kids if they brushed their teeth.
Special needs moms prompt, “Brush your top teeth. Brush your bottom teeth. Did you get the sides? Open your mouth. My God, give me that toothbrush! You’ve left half your meal in there!”
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Regular moms wave goodbye as their kids run off to catch the school bus.
Special needs moms get awesome door-to-door bus service for their child.
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Regular moms know the names of all their friends.
Special needs moms know most of their friends by their username.
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Regular moms judge other moms when kids have tantrums in stores.
Special needs moms say to themselves, “Hmm, I wonder which disability he has?”
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Regular moms complain about driving their kids to sports and recreation classes.
Special needs mom grin and bear the weekly trips to tutors, doctors and therapists.
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Regular moms’ kids have a teacher.
Special needs moms’ kids have a team.
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Regular moms talk about accomplishments.
Special needs moms talk about skills, as in play skills, conversation skills, life skills, social skills and vocational skills.
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Regular moms relax with their kids during the summer.
Special needs moms start their second job as home teachers, therapists and skills coaches.
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Regular moms think accommodations refer to hotels.
Special needs moms have memorized the top 20 accommodations for their child.
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Regular moms hope their child finds a good career.
Special needs moms are hopeful someone gives our child the chance to work.
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Regular moms soak in the tub when they want to unwind.
Special needs moms consider a bathroom break a luxury.
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Regular moms enjoy reading the latest best selling book.
Special needs moms should receive an honorary degree for all the disability books they’ve read.
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Regular moms go out for dinner and a movie with their husbands every month.
Special needs moms have a date night with their husbands every…wait, what decade is this?
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Regular moms complain their kids won’t eat their vegetables.
Special needs moms are so desperate we consider chicken nuggets to be a legitimate meat product and throw in ketchup as a vegetable.
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Regular moms’ kids go to play groups.
Special needs moms’ kids go to therapy groups.
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Regular moms meet for a ladies night out.
Special needs moms get together at support groups and forums.
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Regular moms have medical claim forms that fit in one file folder.
Special needs moms will tell you a small forest was cut down so we could receive our claims.
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Regular moms think OT means overtime.
Special needs moms know more acronyms than a NASA engineer.
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Regular moms complain their husbands sit on the couch while they do all the work.
Special needs moms…well how about that? Some things do stay the same!
Moms, a stranger walks among you. We look like regular moms, but we are the hybrid to your standard engine. Our child’s disability altered us, enhanced us. Many words describe us: resilient, creative, protective, emboldened, sympathetic, fierce and determined. We are special needs moms. How do our lives stand apart from your own? Take a look under the hood and see for yourself.
by Dawn Villarreal, One Place for Special Needs, May 2010
Regular moms tell their kids to wake up and get dressed in the morning. And they do it.
Special needs moms put on battle gear to get our kids ready to start their day.
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Regular moms ask their kids if they brushed their teeth.
Special needs moms prompt, “Brush your top teeth. Brush your bottom teeth. Did you get the sides? Open your mouth. My God, give me that toothbrush! You’ve left half your meal in there!”
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Regular moms wave goodbye as their kids run off to catch the school bus.
Special needs moms get awesome door-to-door bus service for their child.
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Regular moms know the names of all their friends.
Special needs moms know most of their friends by their username.
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Regular moms judge other moms when kids have tantrums in stores.
Special needs moms say to themselves, “Hmm, I wonder which disability he has?”
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Regular moms complain about driving their kids to sports and recreation classes.
Special needs mom grin and bear the weekly trips to tutors, doctors and therapists.
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Regular moms’ kids have a teacher.
Special needs moms’ kids have a team.
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Regular moms talk about accomplishments.
Special needs moms talk about skills, as in play skills, conversation skills, life skills, social skills and vocational skills.
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Regular moms relax with their kids during the summer.
Special needs moms start their second job as home teachers, therapists and skills coaches.
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Regular moms think accommodations refer to hotels.
Special needs moms have memorized the top 20 accommodations for their child.
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Regular moms hope their child finds a good career.
Special needs moms are hopeful someone gives our child the chance to work.
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Regular moms soak in the tub when they want to unwind.
Special needs moms consider a bathroom break a luxury.
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Regular moms enjoy reading the latest best selling book.
Special needs moms should receive an honorary degree for all the disability books they’ve read.
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Regular moms go out for dinner and a movie with their husbands every month.
Special needs moms have a date night with their husbands every…wait, what decade is this?
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Regular moms complain their kids won’t eat their vegetables.
Special needs moms are so desperate we consider chicken nuggets to be a legitimate meat product and throw in ketchup as a vegetable.
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Regular moms’ kids go to play groups.
Special needs moms’ kids go to therapy groups.
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Regular moms meet for a ladies night out.
Special needs moms get together at support groups and forums.
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Regular moms have medical claim forms that fit in one file folder.
Special needs moms will tell you a small forest was cut down so we could receive our claims.
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Regular moms think OT means overtime.
Special needs moms know more acronyms than a NASA engineer.
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Regular moms complain their husbands sit on the couch while they do all the work.
Special needs moms…well how about that? Some things do stay the same!
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
Finally got a new laptop!!
Yay!! Hubby came home with a new laptop for me last night! I had a feeling he was out getting one when we were at Target and I said "Ok I'm heading home now." (we drove seperately because he was at the gym beforehand) and he said "Ok you head home I'm going somewhere else" I said "where are you going?" and he said "to another store...." LOL
He came home with a new laptop and said to me "Happy belated Mother's Day, Happy Anniversary (our 9 year anniversary is June 21st!) and Happy Birthday" Haha!
So Yay! Expect regular blogging again!
Let's do a few pictures in this entry to kind of catch us up! This past weekend was kind of like the unofficial start of summer with memorial day and all. Saturday we spent the day at my dad's house for his yearly memorial weekend BBQ. Then my husband was gone Sunday helping my dad do a side job, so I kept the boys busy with our first trip to the pool! After that we came home and had some snacks and I did the laundry then I took the boys to play some putt putt! On Monday my husband went back to the pool with us. It was a really nice weekend :)
Some pics from the weekend....
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