tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8637218319473527319.post3076854598605989552..comments2023-10-02T09:33:48.756-04:00Comments on Shhhhh....Mommy's Hiding!: There's a LOT of hurt thereHeatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07929943946025547117noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8637218319473527319.post-81597576979599023472010-07-30T15:25:50.234-04:002010-07-30T15:25:50.234-04:00Hello beautiful blogger. It's my first visit ...Hello beautiful blogger. It's my first visit but I was really touched by what you wrote. I don't have an answer for you because each person has to find their own way. I know people who have chosen not to have a relationship with their parents because it was more detrimental for them to do so. I would not choose that way, but I am only in my own shoes, not someone else's.<br /><br />I also did a lot for my mom growing up in a different sort of way - mostly entered into her feelings while neglecting my own. We do have a good relationship now - we've made peace and then some. However, it was hard for me to stop being a mother to the whole world when I sometimes had to be a mother (or at least a confidante) to my own mom.<br /><br />Anyway, sending you hugs.Miss Welcomehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16539794668863414776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8637218319473527319.post-66867654521582915852010-07-30T09:20:07.544-04:002010-07-30T09:20:07.544-04:00the thing is, if you make that choice to be the bi...the thing is, if you make that choice to be the bigger person to work at a relationship with your mom... most times people expect that the other side will work for it as well... which usually isn't the case, so if your interested in a relationship where your doing all the work to make it happen i say go for it because to me it doesn't sound like she is interested or she would make at least SOME kind of effort. It sucks that this is what you have to deal with from your mom but maybe if you told her how you felt maybe she would come around, maybe not but either way at least you would have RELEASED it and it will make you feel better knowing that... YOU TRIED. <br />just my thought :o)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17861031994524155095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8637218319473527319.post-33720739036030125562010-07-29T12:25:02.075-04:002010-07-29T12:25:02.075-04:00A few years ago, I realized I could "break up...A few years ago, I realized I could "break up" with things that weren't working in my life. I've broken up with self-check outs, MapQuest, The Today Show, Wal-Mart, God, and an old roommate. You have a CHOICE of who or what you can have in your life. It sounds to me you have made every effort available to you, and still get a negative return. If you don't feel you're ready to break up, at least take a break. It takes two people to be in a relationship. Good luck.Laynehttp://braintwinkles.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8637218319473527319.post-1373751441917742522010-07-29T09:46:16.729-04:002010-07-29T09:46:16.729-04:00*BIG HUGS* I'm so sorry :(*BIG HUGS* I'm so sorry :(MommyLovesStilettoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09743876173745605269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8637218319473527319.post-39942599995934782732010-07-29T07:53:44.455-04:002010-07-29T07:53:44.455-04:00This has to be hard! I can relate to a lot of this...This has to be hard! I can relate to a lot of this with other family members. It's hard to always 'be the bigger person'. Then you find yourself being the one who works at the relationship and get nothing in return. But it's a struggle b/c you want to do the right thing. I'm sorry she is causing you this pain. The birthdays going unrecognized, and not visiting her grandchildren is too much. I'm sorry! I hope you two can repair your relationship somehow.Adriennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065409375913634202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8637218319473527319.post-38873207740539107052010-07-29T07:50:45.767-04:002010-07-29T07:50:45.767-04:00I understand. While my mom and I talk more than th...I understand. While my mom and I talk more than that, we are not close. I know I could be the bigger person- but in my mom's case, that would mean doing/saying exactly what she wants- and not being me. <br /><br />Thanks for linking up.Shellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8637218319473527319.post-1805706245667534102010-07-29T03:35:39.388-04:002010-07-29T03:35:39.388-04:00I hope that your mom reads this blog and decides t...I hope that your mom reads this blog and decides to give you a call. Life is too short to hold onto things. Family and relationships are what count. I will be praying for you. Thanks for posting such an honest entry today. Kuddos to you!LaVonnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15553938441239595112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8637218319473527319.post-30452447285178472782010-07-29T01:40:16.067-04:002010-07-29T01:40:16.067-04:00That's tough and I'm sorry for you. I wish...That's tough and I'm sorry for you. I wish that I had a magic answer but I don't so I will pray for you and your mom.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15143572218544904176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8637218319473527319.post-29942168555808687582010-07-29T01:35:15.500-04:002010-07-29T01:35:15.500-04:00I can't say I have this experience personally,...I can't say I have this experience personally, but I do have close friends with similar stories. My heart goes out to you because we all want the ideal situation in our lives and especially our children's lives. But the fact is, we live in an imperfect world with other imperfect people and all we can do is hope, pray, and make the best choices we can with the knowledge that we have been given. Please be encouraged that although your relationship with her is not what you would hope for, you have the advantage of bringing up a better generation :-)Candacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08923022938918782870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8637218319473527319.post-64651525357904235352010-07-29T00:24:46.335-04:002010-07-29T00:24:46.335-04:00I totally feel for you. This is almost exactly wh...I totally feel for you. This is almost exactly what I am going through with my father. Not as deep, or for as long, but I have two baby girls who he hasn't seen for a long time. I can count on two hands how many times he has seen them. My oldest is about to turn 3. =( All the best to you, and I hope everything works out for you and your mom.Lily Bean Designshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12163392558894903286noreply@blogger.com